Being a mom to three mostly grown children is hard work. I don't think I ever thought of it as being so hard! I guess I figured that when they graduated from high school they some how magically didn't really need me much. My daughter is a senior in college. She is taking 18 credits and is very busy and stressed. She calls me to de-stress her. To help her think about something besides her classes, to make her think about more than just today. My second child is also in college. He is unsure of where he is going in life. He doesn't want to need me. Yet he does. With one I answer the phone and chat, the other I get on the phone and try to connect.
My son still at home is the quiet one of the bunch. He I have to find ways to be in the room with him. Sit in the same room and make small comments to him and discuss small comments he makes. With him there are few long conversations. I learn more about computers/computer networking/modems... than any 47 yr old lady needs to know.
I keep track of appointments and trust me it isn't easy. The older two don't live here and I don't make the appointments. One is so stressed she forgets and the other just isn't in a mental place to even care to remember. I try to keep track of the cars, the maintenance, the inspection, the oil change, tires.... Class schedules, Spring break, Fall break, how long is Winter break. Have they registered for classes? Has my daughter figured out what she needs to do for graduation, class wise and also the actual event? Have they sent thank you notes for Christmas gifts? Are they eating properly.
I do realize that this over mothering thing is my issue and not theirs. I am working on it. I would like to know how to turn it off? Ok, not turn it off but at least tone it down!
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